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More insights on handling holiday parenting time disputes

Before Thanksgiving we highlighted three basic tenets for separated parents should conduct themselves during the holiday season. We believe that they are essential for parents who have high-conflict relationships because the Christmas season is so important to children for a number of reasons.

First, the holiday season is for making memories for kids. Who wants to be the person who deprives a child of this time with a parent? Second, it is important for children to see their parents getting along, because kids love both of them and do not want to get caught in the middle of a war between parents. 

With that, it is important for parents to know and understand the trigger points in their co-parenting relationship, and do their best to avoid them. If they cannot be avoided, being able to reach a compromise (even though you may hate appeasing someone who is being unreasonable) is beneficial not only for the future of your co-parenting relationship, it will take some of the stress of the kids as well.

For those who are unaware of what trigger points tend to set parents off, think about timing and communication. If a parent is late for an exchange, and does not communicate that he or she is running behind schedule, chances are that the other parent is going to be upset. If a parent schedules an event during the other parent’s time and does not say anything about it until the last minute, you can only guess how the parent will react.

If you need assistance in resolving conflict, a mediator can help. 

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