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What unmarried dads should know about seeking custody

A majority of single parent households in Oklahoma are headed by women. While there a number of reasons for this, there are still countless fathers who seek custody and parenting time of their children. Many fathers feel like they are treated as second-class citizens for seeking equal parenting time, especially if they have been intentionally shunned from their children’s lives by vindictive mothers.

Whatever the case may be, it is unfortunate that some fathers give up on the process; frustrated by the pace upon which decisions are made and how much they have to prove. With that said, this post will provide some helpful tips for unmarried dads seeking custody and parenting time. 

It’s not about you – Indeed, the process may seem unfair. After all, you are learning how to be a parent just as much as mom is, even though the child may live with her. Keep in mind that the court’s concern is with the well-being of the child, not with how well you can take care of him or her.

Don’t be discouraged by disses – One of the common plays by vindictive mothers is to bate fathers into arguments and fights that can potentially ruin their custody case. Simply put, don’t fall for this trick. The consequences for reacting negatively are not worth it.

Keep your eyes on the prize – The process of obtaining a court order may seem long right now, but the work invested in a couple of months may stand for years to come. So look at it as an investment in your family.


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